Man, what to do?

What do you do with all of these stories? What about when you hear a story that breaks your heart. But all you can do is listen, invite, and reflect. You know that what your clients do is up to them. After all, they have to live their own lives as do you? As systemic, postmodern therapists, we signed up to help clients find and use their personal resources. So, we try to be there for clients but it seems to be getting harder and harder. I had a colleague share with me a very difficult case. Of course, he's sharing the case because he's stuck. We discovered that he is stuck because he wants to save his client from his wife but can only be there in a very non-directive way. What do you do when you want to tell a client what to do? How do you say, "give it up," without saying "Give it up." Share your wisdom with the rest of us.